Category Archives: Life
The Ruth-Boaz Myth and the Hard and the Gospel of Sexual Freedom – #SFS17 Day 2

I attended a conference session called, “Defusing the Power of Toxic Religion for Sexual Advocacy,” because I’m writing a memoir…

To 2016: An Open Letter and Elegy

Read the whole letter here. Also note: Carrie Fisher, her mother Debbie Reynolds, and Carolyn Miller-Cooper passed before my editor’s filing…

Fatherhood as a Process

On Sunday, I thought I shared a link to my new podcast, but it turns out I didn’t. Click here…

Black Father-Daughter Talk

A podcast featuring a 30-something black woman and her dad, talking about life. Click here to listen. (I hadn’t actually made…

What I’m Still Learning from Prince

I’ve been trying to process why Prince’s death feels so much worse to me than Michael Jackson’s or even Whitney…

A Black Family Memoir from A Different World

Since I see no reason to add to the thousands of think pieces EBONY magazine’s November cover story, “Cosby vs. Cliff,” undoubtedly…

Recovering from Spiritual Perfectionism and Searching for Divine Guidance
Illustration: white boy on green chair, little brown dog sits next to him. Text reads: "My trouble was I had a mind. But I couldn't make it up."

In my last column for NCR, I wrote about my somewhat surprising desire to find a church home in my…

Shifting Focus

ME: I had a good life. My program wasn’t what I really wanted, and it was hard to do that…

Mad at Bill but Still Wishing for Cliff and Claire
Screenshot of a Cosby Show episode featuring Cliff and Claire snuggling on the sofa

“He is guilty of self-confessed crimes against women such that we should break his albums, burn his tapes and scratch…

Tenderness, Masculinity, Femininity and God

I remember attending a Sunday school class several years ago in which the gentleness of God was the topic. I…

The Best of Me Will Live

On September 1, 2015, I will begin the master of fine arts program in creative writing at Rutgers University-Camden. This…

I Deserve Love

I’ve seen an interesting photo on Facebook a couple of times in recent days: In case you can’t see it,…

Redbone Afropuff in Transition

  Last month, I unveiled my new personal mission statement: to help Black women and girls in my community discover…

Feminist Masquerade
Mardi Gras type of mask

  I envy Ann Bauer’s life. I began reading her piece for Salon, “‘Sponsored’ by my husband: Why it’s a…

When the message reinforces fear

“If you had a little girl right now, how would you discipline her?” a friend asked me recently. “I don’t…

An outsider who blends in

Click here to listen to the music with the above photo Update 07/16/2014: I’m having some technical difficulties with the…

What’s Up with the Blog and What’s Next?

I wrote my first post/essay of the day at about 2:00 in the afternoon on yet another day that I told…

Consciousness as a Form of Resistance

Last week I had the privilege of attending Freedom Dreams Freedom Now, a conference sponsored by the Social Justice Initiative at…

On Maya and Vincent

Some context: 1. It’s really late. 10:57 central time. 2. I’m at a social justice conference structured to commemorate the…

My Best Posts of 2013

I’m a little late on looking back, but I wrote 67 posts in 2013. Here’s my top 10 list of…

The Jesus in Grandmama’s House
Italian Christ

In “The Comfort of a Sweet, Black, Dreadlocked Jesus,” I recalled the image of Jesus Christ as depicted in a painting…

Food, Family and a Little Conflict for Thanksgiving

Yesterday’s Thanksgiving dinner—or whatever you might call the meal you eat at 3:00 p.m.—surprised me. First, the food was amazing….

5 Things I’m Both Thankful for and Happy About

It’s the obligatory Thanksgiving Day post. Mine is composed of the few things I’m not only thankful for but happy…

What makes me a feminist?

What makes me a feminist? I’ve been thinking about this question since my feminism history class last night. We were…

The Feminist First Lady Question Continues

Since reading a few comments to “Michelle Obama is role model, but maybe not a feminist one,” my most recent…

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